This month, I covered the energy overview for June and suggested that it’s an excellent time to address and improve on criticism and judgement. This may be showing up in your life this month for you to realise how important it is to get rid of this lower-energy vibe!
I believe in cutting out these damaging behaviours from our lives, whether they’re coming from ourselves or others. Judging and criticising ourselves and others does nothing but hold us back from achieving our goals and living our best abundant lives. If you’re looking for guidance on achieving this goal, this blog is worth a read!
In my group coaching program, we frequently examine the need to eliminate criticism and judgement, which significantly influences our capacity to quantum leap towards our goals and objectives.
Judging ourselves and others is a waste of time and creates unnecessary stress and unhappiness.
This month, I’d like to focus on how I can help you shift the focus away from negativity and towards more positive thought patterns.
Criticism and judgement is a dense thought-form that will quickly lower your vibrations and block you from moving forward. Criticism allows us to tell ourselves, “this is not what I want to be. I want to be something else instead.“
We use criticism for more than just judgement and deciding what we do or do not want to be.
Criticism is one of the things that we have learned from our family, friends and ancestors, and we have made it into something incredibly harmful and hurtful.
Constantly being around criticism and judgement will bring our energy down drastically. If we are constantly critiquing ourselves and perhaps others, we hold others to one another’s standards. This is when our self-worth starts to play games with our feelings and emotions and holds us back from fear of judgement and criticism.
When we criticise ourselves, our family, friends, or even our business it expands much negative energy, which is incredibly draining. The best way to avoid this is to be aware of your thoughts and words. Listen to the tone of your voice and the words you use when you’re talking to yourself or others. If you catch yourself being negative, try to reframe the situation in a more positive light. We can all benefit from focusing on the positive this month.
Why do we feel the need to critique ourselves and others?
Subconsciously, we believe that as long as we stay here, we don’t have to risk failure. We don’t have to try; we don’t have to accomplish anything, and we can remain in limbo instead. Through personal experience, I have found that criticism keeps you bound to the moment, but on the flip side, it keeps us in our comfort zone and therefore keeps us in safety.
If we changed, what would happen?
We may never be free to reach our full potential if we are overly critical. It’s good, or it’s terrible. Right or incorrect. Interesting or uninteresting. Simple or complex. Beautiful or ugly. We’re bombarded with judgements every day, whether on television or in our thoughts. Our society is addicted to categorising and comparing people.
Have you been in the presence of someone talking negatively about herself or others, which left you feeling completely drained?
Use your energy and apply it to positive thoughts and actions; therefore, it creates your reality.
Have you ever considered the things that irritate you about someone else? Are you curious as to why they are one way rather than another?
When we criticise, we send signals out to others. If we are not doing it right, everyone is going to notice. Because our ancestors have compared ourselves to others for so long, it has become a collective subconscious program, and it has become instinctual.
Our negative emotions, such as anger, fear, anxiety, insecurities, and judgements, may offer us some value. It’s critical not to condemn the judge as we heal. With compassion, our inner judge has the capacity to soften and change into our ally as we accept it.
Self-compassion is the process of embracing one’s suffering and unpleasant aspects with gentleness, care, and compassion. We learn to accept our pain and distasteful aspects with attention, caring, and compassion. These parts of ourselves that are less-than-desirable are locations within us that require care and attention rather than criticism or rejection.
This whole self-judgment thing can also be a positive turnaround.
I’ve always been self-critical. I felt like I was putting myself down about how I should live/feel/think/act that I couldn’t always be as I’d wanted for the majority of my life.
Two years ago, I decided to go on a self-imposed judgement cleanse. I got to a point where I was tired of judging myself and others and was ready to do some serious work. I knew I had to shift my critical attitude, but until the cleanse, I didn’t really know how much.
In 2020, I committed to a 40 days positive thinking challenge that changed my life. It has been a good few years since I began that journey, and it’s incredible how few negative thoughts I have anymore.
Time to Heal with Compassion
Take some time to connect with the places in you that you criticise and judge. Sit comfortably and close your eyes. Allow yourself to relax by taking mindful breaths. Every exhalation helps you release and soften; every inhalation brings you into the present moment. It will become clear that self-judging does not support your healing and growth. Judgement cannot exist in the same way it has lived moving forward in your life. Know where you are headed and the work you are here to do; a big part of it is shifting judgement and criticism.
To get started, you must first figure out why you were judged in the first place. I realised I had been living in an environment that was limiting. I discovered through self-inquiry that judgements are always linked to deep inner self-knowledge work, and therefore they were blocking my ability to access the WHY.
I’ve learned that when you’re subjected to harsh criticism or judgement regarding someone, it’s a signal that something within you needs attention.
What I choose to believe now.
The people who judge you are some of your most excellent teachers. Each time I notice a judgement or criticism from someone else, I take an incredible opportunity to do some profound work on myself and move towards more self-acceptance, unconditional love, and serenity.
Not clearing the limiting beliefs creates major blocks in our energy bodies and often leads to physical, emotional, and mental illness. Recognising when we are judging and criticising is the first step towards crafting new beliefs, clearing those blocks, and moving into more vibrancy and wellbeing.
Judgements and criticisms of yourself keep you small, powerless, and cut off from the rest of the world.
This is the personal growth you want to focus on this month. I am genuinely grateful for each chance to help you heal, transform, and integrate new ways of being into your life.
One main area we judge ourselves and criticise is our image. How we look is a big part of our self-concept, and when we don’t like what we see in the mirror, it can trigger a lot of self-judgment.
We are often our own worst critics when it comes to our physical appearance. If you’re not careful, this negative inner dialogue can become a destructive force in your life, leading to eating disorders, depression, and a general feeling of dissatisfaction.
The first step in overcoming self-judgement is to become aware of the negative thoughts you have about yourself. Once you’re aware of the problem, you can start taking steps to change how you think.
Meanwhile, here are some tips to get you started on shifting the negative mindset and what I did during my 40-day cleanse:
- Pay attention to your inner dialogue.
- When you catch yourself judging yourself, stop and ask why.
- Challenge your negative thoughts.
- Focus on what you love about yourself.
- Practice self-compassion.
- Seek professional help if you need it.
- Remember that you are not alone.
I hope this has been helpful. Please remember that you are not alone in this, and help is always available if you need it.